What if your kids WANT to do homeschool?

[AnonyMom]

My kids are in public and private schools right now. They WANT to be homeschooled. Should we try it or not?

[Survivor]

Hi Mom,
Well, to be honest here, which is what I do, I find the question a bit curious. You imply you are a parent with children in public and private school. Why are they in different school systems now?
It implies you are treating your children differently for some reason, and maybe good reasons. Is one a problem in school? Is one smarter than the rest? What are the ages? Lots of variables, but I think those variables are important to give an opinion, but I will do my best anyway.
First, you are the parent and therefore you need to make the decisions of their life based on what will help them, not what they want. Them saying they want to be homeschooled, tells me that they either aren't dealing with maternal separation well, or they are having trouble dealing with their piers or authority in school.
Think about it... how would homeschooling help either one of these things. The process of making your children an independent functional adult begins at birth, and continues throughout their life. Homeschooling just delays the process, and makes it harder and harder as the years go on. Mark my words separation will happen, but if you don't start it early, you will either kick them out someday, or they will just run away. Both scenarios are much harder than pushing them out a little at a time, and then eventually both sides will know when it is time.
The second possibility of not not being able to deal with others, should be pretty obvious as to why homeschooling will not help. You take away the stimuli that brings the trouble, and somehow think that when they leave the home that all of a sudden they will know how to deal with others. I hope everyone can see the faults in that plan.
Children instinctively try to run from any adversity or things that cause discomfort in life. Our jobs as parents is not to shield them from these things, but teach them how to go through the trouble. Homeschooling is often a shelter for the parents as well. They no longer have to deal with the issues their children are going through in school. Parents get afraid of dealing with the teachers of their children who are causing problems. It is no surprise then that those same parents have no trouble helping their children run from trouble as they do it themselves. Those parents have no intention of actually dealing with the children themselves so on comes the "self taught homeschooler."
Isn't is a little surprising that any other area of life, if a child asks a parent how to do something, that the parent does what they can to show a child how to do it. But with something as important as learning math, reading, and writing, that they just let the child "teach themselves?"
So, to wrap this up, I don't think you really want to know the answer to the question you were asking. You should already know the opinion of the site by title. I do know some people who were brainwashed enough to think that homeschooling is good, but I have yet to have one tell me that they think it better prepared them for life. I know ALOT of homeschoolers, but very very few 2nd generation ones. There is just something in all of us, that tells us it's not right. Even those who have convinced themselves it is a good thing, feel the need to constantly justify what they do, and tear down everyone else.

Thanks for writing in Mom

Survivor

[Loving father of three]

Feb 21, 2010 10:20:14 GMT -6 @AnonyMom said:

My kids are in public and private schools right now. They WANT to be homeschooled. Should we try it or not?

NO! Love your kids enough to say NO to home school.

What if your your kids want to try LSD and booze? Must you let them do whatever they want? Be a responsible parent. Responsible parents don't home school their children.

[WifeofHomeschooledforHSGuy]

Right on, father if three! My husband is 25 and still recovering.

[typo sorry]

I meant "of" three!

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